Do you date based on outside appearances?

Judging and choosing a person by their skin colour or body style or profession is like walking onto a car lot and buying the lemon because you think it "looks good in red".

The outside packaging has zero relevance to the heart and soul of a human being, which are the ONLY things that matter in a true relationship bond. Ever looked into someone's eyes and felt a real connection? That feeling makes everything about them beautiful, the heart is completely blind to the colour of the paint job outside or how many cupholders are included.

And one wonders why there are so many unhappy, superficial relationships....people who are more concerned what their friends think of who they're dating rather than actually feeling love in their hearts. People that try to compete with others to get someone, someone they wouldn't have been interested in otherwise. I feel very sad for those types....they're on a constant unattainable quest to find someone who they think has everything they're supposedly looking for.

What people "want" is 100% their own perception, they choose what they think they want and use it as an excuse to judge and compare people to no end. This is an emotionally destructive behaviour that can only end in sorrow. I blame some of this on Western society's influence, which has basically brainwashed the younger generation to think of people as "products"....that they should "go shopping" and look for "deals" and "the best styles" for their next boyfriend/girlfriend.

Literally, people have become nothing more than shiny possessions to show off to their friends and pretend they're happy. I cannot understand that, I've never looked at my girlfriends as being "arm candy" or someone to "show off". What a disgusting society we live in if that's the case! I chose my girlfriends because I loved them (a word many young people don't understand), I adored them, and I share a bond with them that is far beyond clothing, bodies, or friends judgments. If you love someone, that is all that matters. Those that get it, will always be happy. Those that don't will continue chasing non-existent fairy tale lifestyles and keep feeding their own egos until the day they die with a tear in their eye.

Can't really say I'm surprised that divorce rates are as high as 50% in some states/provinces for marriages that begin under the age of 30 in North America. Can you?